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Culture and family make New Year’s special

Family traditions become even more meaningful as the years go by — in a crazy world with so many distractions, they’re an important way to remember your roots. Read More

Long-ago letter to Santa whispers wisdom

A scrawled note is a heart-tugging reminder that Christmas and birthdays shouldn’t be the only occasions when we bestow gifts upon our children. Read More

Giving thanks for most exceptional Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving took Star-Advertiser columnist Celia Downes to Virginia and New York this year, making for a holiday to truly cherish — plus a surprise. Read More

Mom enables dependency in 20-something son

Yes, it’s true that for all my son’s life I have overseen his medical and dental welfare and written the checks to pay the bills. Am I an enabler? Read More
Updated on  November 19, 2016 at 5:00 pm

Parents’ ashes kept close to heart until ready for final resting place

My dad died 10 years ago this month. It was the day of the Kiholo Bay earthquakes — a ground shift in many regards. And just as with my mother, Tutu, who died 15 years ago and whose ashes I have yet to scatter off Waikiki, there is unfinished business with my father. Read More
Updated on  October 21, 2016 at 7:01 pm

Priorities change at 40, life no longer ‘all about me’

Whoever said 40 was fabulous? I turned the big 4-0 earlier this year and I don’t look, or feel, extraordinary like those 40-something celebrity moms with their perfect bikinibodies or the ambitious power-suit wearing businesswomen who seemingly have it all — thriving families and successful careers. Read More
Updated on  October 17, 2016 at 8:10 pm

Newfound taste prompts exploration of craft beers

For the most part, I lead a fairly healthy lifestyle. I work out most days of the week, rarely touch plate lunches and drink tons of water. Sure, I’m a fan of pizza and Spam musubiand lying around for half the day, but I don’t indulge in those things all the time. Read More
Updated on  October 5, 2016 at 7:32 pm

Goodie bags from parents full of love and motley food

Visiting my parents’ house almost always means going home with a grocery bag full of unsolicited food — and the offerings are as random as they are welcome. Read More
Updated on  September 28, 2016 at 5:58 pm

New excitement over elastic highlights eternal struggle

Pull-on pants, where have you been all my life? It’s a little embarrassing that such a simple thing could send me over the moon, but that pretty much illustrates the struggle many women face in finding pants that fit — and maybe how boring my life is that I get excited about elastic-waist bottoms. Read More
Updated on  September 22, 2016 at 1:24 am

Don’t let fear of future stop you from starting a family

Last weekend, National Public Radio’s “All Things Considered” program had an intriguing story on, as the headline put it, “climate change activists hesitant to have kids.” Read More
Updated on  September 7, 2016 at 7:23 pm

Olympics spur memories from South Pacific Games

After two weeks of compulsive TV viewing of the Rio Olympics, my brain went soft, jogging a distant memory of my own Olympic experience. Well, sort of. Read More
Updated on  August 24, 2016 at 8:13 pm
                                Kakaako was crowded with Pokemon fans during the Hawaii Pokémon GO Fest earlier this month.

Is game harmless diversion or a monstrous obsession?

                                Kakaako was crowded with Pokemon fans during the Hawaii Pokémon GO Fest earlier this month.

Updated on  October 17, 2016 at 4:53 pm
As if I need one more distraction. “Pokemon Go” came into my life unexpectedly as a download on my iPhone by my 10-year-old son. Read More