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He male ko ka wā kahikoā

By LAIANA WONG

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Synopsis: As the same-sex marriage bill passes from the Senate to the House, the debate over its relative merit rages on. How does this debate relate to pre-contact views on interpersonal relationships?

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Aloha hou mai nō kākou e nā hoa heluhelu nāna e maka'ala mau i nā nīnau e kupu mau mai ana no ke 'ano o ka nohona o kākou kānaka, he pono a he pono 'ole paha. Eia hou ua kupu mai ua nīnau kaulana no ka pono a me ka 'ole o ka male 'ana he kāne a he kāne a he wahine paha a he wahine. I loko nō o ka nui o ka leo kū'ē, ua holo ka pila ma ka 'Aha Kenekoa e 'āpono ana i ia 'ano male 'ana.

Nui ko'u mahalo i ka mana'o o Hinaleimoana Wong-Kalu i ho'opuka 'ia ma loko o ka StarAdvertiser i ka lā 30 nei. Hō'ike maila 'o ia i ke 'ano o ka nohona o ka po'e Hawai'i i ke au kahiko. 'O ia ho'i, he mau 'ano pilina kanaka i 'ike 'ia a i ho'okae 'ole 'ia, no ka mea, he mea ma'a mau ia e uluhua 'ole ai nā hoa kanaka o ka noho pū 'ana. He māhele ia no ka lāhui kanaka a he kuleana ho'i ma ka lawelawe 'ana i nā hana e ulakolako ai ka nohona o ka lāhui kanaka i ka 'āina.

I nalu iho na'e ka hana o nei mea kākau, 'upu a'ela ka mana'o no ka pilina o ka nohona kahiko me kēia nīnau e 'ā'ume'ume 'ia nei i kēia mau lā a kākou e lohe nei. 'A'ohe “male” 'ana o ka wā kahiko (ma mua o ka hō'ea mai o Kāpena Kuke. 'Eā, 'a'ole like ka ho'āo me ka male). He hua'ōlelo ia i haku 'ia ma ka ho'opilipili 'ana i ke 'ano o ka hua'ōlelo haole 'o “marry”. Kāhāhā! He mea ia na ka po'e haole i lawe mai a i koikoi mai ho'i i ko kākou po'e kūpuna e mālama. 'O ia ihola kekahi o nā mea he nui a lehulehu i lawe 'ia mai e kēlā po'e a nāna i ho'ololi nui mai i ke 'ano o ka nohona o ka po'e kahiko.

No laila, no ke aha kākou e uluhua nei i kēia mea he maleā Eia mai ko'u wahi mana'o ma laila. Mai ka wā ma mua loa mai, ka wā ho'i i lawe 'ia mai ai ka male 'ana i 'ane'i, ua 'ike 'ia nā pōmaika'i he nui e ka po'e nāna ia i mālama. 'A'oe hewa o ka mālama 'ana i kēia 'ano hana. Na kākou nō kākou e hana a'e. 'O ka pilikia, aia nō i ka hā'awi 'ana i kekahi po'e i nā pōmaika'i e hā'awi 'ole 'ia nei i kekahi po'e. 'A'ohe wahi kaulike i laila! A he mea nui ke kaulike o nā pono sivila i ke aupuni a ka haole.

Aia nō paha kekahi mea e hana ai no ka ho'oponopono 'ana i kēia hihia, 'o ia ho'i, 'o ka ho'ōki 'ana i ia hana 'o ka hā'awi aku i nā pōmaika'i i kekahi po'e wale nō a me ka ho'ohoka 'ana i kekahi. E ho'opau 'ia ua hana pa'ewa nei he ho'opōmaika'i i kekahi māhele o ka lehulehu. E waiho 'ia ho'i ia koho na kēlā kanaka kēia kanaka. 'O ka po'e nāna e makemake e mālama i ia hana he male, e mālama aku nō lākou me ka manuahi. A 'o ka po'e hoihoi 'ole i ka male, 'o ia ha'awina ho'okahi nō ke loa'a mai. Pēlā nō e kaulike ai nā pono sivila o nā kānaka a pau o ka 'āina. 'A'ole e 'ike 'ia ka pōmaika'i o kahi ma mua o kahi. Hele nō a he 'oia'i'o ia mana'o, 'o ka nalo aku nō paha ia lā o kēia hihia.

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E ho'ouna 'ia mai na ā leka iā māua, 'o ia ho'i 'o Laiana Wong a me Kekeha Solis ma ka pahu leka uila ma lalo nei:

>> kwong@hawaii.edu
>> rsolis@hawaii.edu

a i ‘ole ia, ma ke kelepona:

>> 956-2627 (Laiana)
>> 956-2627 (Kekeha)

This column is coordinated by Kawaihuelani Center for Hawaiian Language at the University of Hawai'i at Mānoa.






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Ken_Conklin wrote:
This commentary praises the column by Hinaleimoana Wong-Kalu, who described what native lifestyle was like before Captain Cook arrived. But Wong-Kalu did not describe the entirety of pre-contact "marriage" customs. For example, Wong-Kalu did not discuss plural "marriage" (men with multiple wives, and women with multiple husbands, were commonplace; and sometimes one of the multiple partners had his/her own multiple partners in other "marriages") plus the admixture of same-gender "friends with benefits" (for example, aikane) who also participated along with "marital" partners. What a wild and wooly barrel of fun it was back in the day! I suspect Wong-Kalu did not discuss those aspects of pre-contact culture for fear it would be far too frightening to today's readers who might be able to be persuaded to support the right to same-gender marriage but would be scared away at the thought of plural marriages with possible outside casual-sex partners. Let's be honest about "marriage" in pre-contact times -- it simply didn't exist. There were plenty of hookups among multiple partners of both genders all going on at the same time, some long-lasting and some one-night hookups, and so chaotic that it was often impossible for a child to know who its biological father was -- hence the concept of po'olua (two fathers -- and why not po'okolu or po'oha?) -- Mom had so many men making deposits in her bank that she had no idea which one was the real Dad.

It's interesting that Laiana Wong embraces the essay by Hinaleimoana Wong-Kalu, but not the one by Edward Halealoha Ayau and Kainani Kahaunaele. The Wong-Kalu essay was filled with angry racism, whereas the one by Ayau/Kahaunaele was open, welcoming, and respectful. Wong-Kalu wrote such diatribe referring to people without a drop of the magic blood as "the ones without a culture, without a language and without a soul, those our ancestors called ha-ole." Such nastiness will not help recruit non-natives to support marriage equality. You must first embrace racial equality before you can support marriage equality. By the way, here's my testimony in favor of marriage equality -- I regret that I find myself on the same side of this issue as the hate-filled Wong-Kalu. But as we often hear, "Politics make strange bedfellows." OMG!
http://tinyurl.com/mknredd


on November 2,2013 | 07:23AM
Terii_Kelii wrote:
You said - "Wong-Kalu did not discuss plural "marriage" (men with multiple wives, and women with multiple husbands, were commonplace; and sometimes one of the multiple partners had his/her own multiple partners in other "marriages")." I say - She did indeed mention the plurality of relationships in her article with these words - " punalua (those men and women who had multiple partners of the opposite sex), " but since that is not relevant to the issue at hand, ie SAME-SEX marriage, then .... why DISCUSS it? Furthermore, the article on the 31st was not mentioned because it was published AFTER the deadline to submit this article, or the author just did not feel like mentioning it. We did not realize that Laiana Wong was required to talk about both. Obviously, the Hawaiian population should always check with you before doing anything since you seem to think you know what Hawaiians should and should not be doing.
on November 2,2013 | 01:15PM
Ken_Conklin wrote:
"We did not realize..." The royal "we"? Delusions of grandeur, or joint authorship perhaps.
on November 2,2013 | 05:30PM
Terii_Kelii wrote:
Another thing is that your words above " Let's be honest about "marriage" in pre-contact times -- it simply didn't exist. " is no shocking surprise, especially when the author, Laiana Wong, says the very same thing in the title " He male ko ka wā kahiko? " and in the text of the article " 'A'ohe “male” 'ana o ka wā kahiko (ma mua o ka hō'ea mai o Kāpena Kuke. 'Eā, 'a'ole like ka ho'āo me ka male). He hua'ōlelo ia i haku 'ia ma ka ho'opilipili 'ana i ke 'ano o ka hua'ōlelo haole 'o “marry”. Kāhāhā! He mea ia na ka po'e haole i lawe mai a i koikoi mai ho'i i ko kākou po'e kūpuna e mālama. " It is common knowledge that Kamehameha I had multiple wives as did his contemporaries and his ancestors. You and your other personality below act as if you have cornered the market on enlightened thought.
on November 3,2013 | 01:43PM
Terii_Kelii wrote:
Another thing is that your words above " Let's be honest about "marriage" in pre-contact times -- it simply didn't exist. " is no shocking surprise, especially when the author, Laiana Wong, says the very same thing in the title " He male ko ka wā kahiko? " and in the text of the article " 'A'ohe “male” 'ana o ka wā kahiko (ma mua o ka hō'ea mai o Kāpena Kuke. 'Eā, 'a'ole like ka ho'āo me ka male). He hua'ōlelo ia i haku 'ia ma ka ho'opilipili 'ana i ke 'ano o ka hua'ōlelo háole 'o “marry”. Kāhāhā! He mea ia na ka po'e háole i lawe mai a i koikoi mai ho'i i ko kākou po'e kūpuna e mālama. " It is common knowledge that Kamehameha I had multiple wives as did his contemporaries and his ancestors. You and your other personality below act as if you have cornered the market on enlightened thought.
on November 3,2013 | 01:49PM
DiverDave wrote:
While I personally don't care one way or another about gay marriage, I find gay people quite naïve when it comes to the unintended consequences that gay marriage will produce. Up until know gay men and women have had the luxury of going in and out of long term relationships with relative ease, with no repercussions other than perhaps a little heartache. Since gay relationships have been found to be no more long lasting than heterosexual ones, the family court system will be flooded with new gay divorce cases. Men will be suing other men for alimony, and half of all property acquired while in the "marriage". Gay men and women that in the past just walked away from a "committed" relationship will be forced by the court to forever pay child support for children that may not be biologically theirs. Gays will find they have tax repercussions having to claim married filling jointly, causing their tax obligations to be larger, and losing health insurance subsidies under ObamaCare. Yes, the lawyering industry, and the I.R.S., just can't wait for Gay marriage to pass.
on November 2,2013 | 09:00AM
Terii_Kelii wrote:
YOU find gay people quite naïve???? YOU are naive to think that the LGBT community does not have the common sense to have figured out already something as incredibly obvious as that. o....m.....g.....
on November 3,2013 | 01:54PM
Terii_Kelii wrote:
Another thing is that your words above " Let's be honest about "marriage" in pre-contact times -- it simply didn't exist. " is no shocking surprise, especially when the author, Laiana Wong, says the very same thing in the title " He male ko ka wā kahiko? " and in the text of the article " 'A'ohe “male” 'ana o ka wā kahiko (ma mua o ka hō'ea mai o Kāpena Kuke. 'Eā, 'a'ole like ka ho'āo me ka male). He hua'ōlelo ia i haku 'ia ma ka ho'opilipili 'ana i ke 'ano o ka hua'ōlelo háole 'o “marry”. Kāhāhā! He mea ia na ka po'e háole i lawe mai a i koikoi mai ho'i i ko kākou po'e kūpuna e mālama. " It is common knowledge that Kamehameha I had multiple wives as did his contemporaries and his ancestors. You and your other personality below act as if you have cornered the market on enlightened thought.
on November 3,2013 | 01:44PM
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