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In a world of instant gratification, teach kids self-control

In a world of instant gratification and instant access to just about everything, self-control is really important — and can be really challenging.

You can use media to help strengthen kids’ self-control by setting appropriate media limits (with their input), finding media that helps kids organize their schedules and sharpen their focus, watching shows that promote the value of self-control and demonstrate the consequences of having no self-control.


>> Work together to create a weekly media schedule with a balance of activities and screen time.

>> Find apps and games that require focus and concentration — for example, strategy or role-playing games.

>> Help your kids learn to self-regulate their own behavior.

>> Seek out apps that help kids with organization and routines.

>> Use accessibility settings such as Guided Access to keep tablets locked on one task at a time.

>> Encourage kids to think through the consequences of their online actions.


>> Create an environment where kids can be consistent with their reading — for example, a certain time of day or a certain place in the house.

>> Encourage your kid to stick with a book for an extra page or chapter before deciding he doesn’t like it.

>> Read about characters who developed self-control.

>> Watch movies and TV that promote self-control.

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